By Remez Sasson
Do you tend to hold grudges or do you forgive people who have hurt you, or whom you think have hurt you?
Forgiveness requires inner strength that not everyone possesses. Feelings often stand in the way of forgiveness, veiling judgment and common sense.
Often, people feel hurt, when no one even tried to hurt them, because they misinterpret people’s words and actions.
If you don’t forgive:
- Thoughts and feelings disturb your mind, preventing inner peace.
- You become unhappy.
- You become resentful.
- You become negative.
You can continue this list if you wish.
Forgiveness shows maturity, common sense, compassion and a noble character.
If you are able to forgive:
- You gain inner peace.
- You free your mind of incessant negative thinking.
- You don’t let thoughts and feelings rule your actions and reactions.
- You don’t let people and external circumstances control your life.
- You open new doors to better things in your life.
How can you forgive people, and is it possible to forgive everything? Forgiveness is a process that takes some time. Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean that you accept what people said or did, even if it is a really bad thing that they did.
Forgiveness means that you stop thinking negative thoughts and being obsessed and disturbed by the incident that made you feel being hurt. It means that you clear your subconscious mind of the hurt feelings. It also means that you clear your mind of any hate, resentment or anger toward the person that hurt or seemingly hurt you.
How can you learn to forgive?
- Be more aware of your thoughts and feelings.
- Don’t take everything too personally.
- Try to be more emotionally and mentally detached.
- Develop some concentration ability, as this will enable you to choose your thoughts and feelings.
- Meditation would also help you be more forgiving.
- Try to show more love and compassion.
- Let go of the past. Don’t let it hold you back.
Holding grudges, resentment or anger, is like being tied to a chain that limits your actions and thinking. It means that you allow others to control your mind and your life.
Forgiveness equals inner freedom. Forgiveness is another important step toward spiritual growth.
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I understand what you are saying about not forgiving yourself, I feel that pain too at times. just remind yourself that you are on a journey and whats happened in the past good or bad, is all a lesson. The negative experiences of the past teaches you not to make the same mistakes again. Just know that now at this point in your life your are trying to live a more positive exsistance free from worry...and in time it will come. much love and light to you Feather Winger :)