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  turtles January 10, 2012 at 11:12pm

  thank you all for your input, advice and your responses to my discussion. you have all helped a lot...

  blessings to you all.....
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  Oriannubis January 10, 2012 at 7:34am

   I don't feel rituals are the answer at least for me. rituals entertain symbolism and symbolism is to detached from the core issue. I go within and ask guidance, connect to source and align with truth. Usually for me, to release something troubling I have to know what it really is I need to release. Maybe we have layers of pain surrounding that, so it obscures what it is, so we don't see what the issue really is. Emotional pain is a trigger point to pay attention to. ie: she did this or that to me, so... I feel hurt, why? because she (disrespected ) me, and in that thought why did she have no regard for me or my kids... why does it hurt me so bad. you will find the core issue keep following the trail to the center of the pain. When we face our issue understand it, forgive ourselves and the other, then we can begin to heal it. All this is part of the ascension process, it has to bubble up to be purged. Then we become clearer and lighter. that my friend is an extraordinarily wonderful feeling. Much luck, and love to you on this great adventure.
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    turtles > Oriannubis January 10, 2012 at 6:24pm

    I wish having one ritual was that easy, but like with many other things it is a process.

    I like the advice about converting it to another story to a different type of energy for release and transmutation.

    Thank you - love and light!
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    turtles > Oriannubis January 10, 2012 at 6:17pm

    Thank you Oriannubis. That is so true. I was thinking where I went with this inside me I went to some real deep inner bleak saddness spots and mourning that probably has to deal with my parental relationships, childhood. It has definatly been a healing journey. I meditated today, chanted while I was walking my sisters dog at the park, and found myself a tree and held onto it, felt it, did some releasing.

     

     
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  Marique January 10, 2012 at 3:23am

  I so understand about the telling of the same story over and over to one's self.  I do it all the time till I pick up on what I am doing.  Then I have to bitchslap myself and try to change that behavior.  That is easy to say and harder to do that is for sure.  In my case I tended to dwell on feeling like a victim and wallowing in the "woe is me": mode.  I mean really wallow....I would play the movie over and over in my mind on some of the horrible things that happened to me, it seemed like it was playing in a continuous loop.  I have to really struggle to not slip back into that same boring memory loop, it is really really hard.  But I know that you can do it....you seem a very strong person to me.  I think now you realize that it is time to release the feelings surrounding the memory of it, so you can let it go.

  I used to have a ritual when I had broken up with a boyfriend or he had broken up with me or when I was really sad and blue which I was very often.  I used to rip open my feather pillow and for each negative thought I would imagine myself pinning that feeling on a feather and I would open my window and blow the feather into the wind....one by one I would cry and attach the pain or sadness to the feather and let it fly on the wind...My mother thought it was so weird because my pillow kept getting smaller and smaller the older I got, so she bought me a new pillow with the foam filling and it did not work nearly as well, haha...that was just my way of releasing my sadness and bad memories and pain, a silly ritual, but it worked for me somehow.
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  1loi1i9evzzvt January 10, 2012 at 2:51am

  Hey Ten Turtles, I remember you talking about this situation before, and i think the best way to let something like that go. Is to do this. First ask yourself what you had learned from that experience you had with the Sex Addicts, and why it was that they had come into your life. Then be thanful that you as a person aren't like that. Then last but not least, thank that experience, and for everything you had learned from it. Let it go. When you start to realize that you would rather be you and yourself rather then someone else that you have picked up on, or someone that had come into your life. You can let go of something real fast then, and just be happy for the life you have now 

  Bless the Nite,
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  turtles January 10, 2012 at 2:40am

  @ John Jancer, thank you for responding....
  You know I didn't write that discussion very well. No, I am not angry that they are addicts what I was angry about is that my kids (i felt) where involved. I was angry that I was offered support, while none came, while being taken advantage of. I was oncall labor while my children where put in front of the t.v so the individual could get a dresser moved, that happened once. If I had known I was being taken advantage of I would have said no. I thought she was my friend. I was struggling to feed my kids (who I co parent with my sister) There is actually a lot to this, but I tried to resolve it, but was blocked and so the energy to the situation was trapped.
  
  thank you for responding you all have helped a lot....
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    John Jancar > turtles January 10, 2012 at 8:15pm

    Oh okay, I understand now lol But how did they take advantage of you? I'm still not really clear lol Well you know...I don't know lol I guess you can keep pounding your head about it, or....you can try to find it in your heart to forgive....I know it's not easy....but I think it's what you gotta do. There's a lesson here, and it's pretty clear what the lesson is....and if you don't do it now, it'll repeat. So try to just be light about it, just say...you know it's okay, these things happen...I'm not gonna let it drag me down....just try and see them as innocent beings who don't really know what they're doing....and try to have compassion for it. I know easier said than done lol
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  John Jancar January 10, 2012 at 2:11am

  This story is a bit confusing...so you're angry because these people are sex addicts....and you don't like that....and you are angry because they aren't acting the way you want them to act.....well I mean, you can't control how people are all the time. At the end of the day you only have control over yourself, and if a situation isn't what you'd like it to be, and efforts to change it have been futile...well just stop trying lol I think this is a situation where "just let it be" is the right call.

  And it depends how you went about it....did you like scold them for it, and say how it's wrong and you shouldn't do that....well how would you expect them to react to that. Nobody likes being talked down to. Its definitely not gonna win you any brownie points lol I mean they'll learn eventually, just let them do what they wanna do for now. This is more about you than them, I would think....you have to have patience, and let go of this need to always control everything. Control is good to a point, then it becomes a negative thing.

  And I wish there was some magic key to just unlock forgiveness like that, but the truth is....there's not much we can tell you...you have to find it within you. I know it's not easy lol But it's part of mastery. It's all a test, whether you pass it or it keeps repeating is up to you.
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    turtles > John Jancar January 10, 2012 at 2:49am

    that just warms my heart

    thank you so much....visualize the heart chakra and say " I wish to forgive."....?

    i think so much beauty is going to come from this situation