I am a wonderful mother and I take damn good care of my daughter but my family likes to disagree with me. My mom thinks my parenting isnt good enough and tells me my daughter doesnt need to be around me and its not healthy for her to be around a depressed mother. She treats me like Im mental when I make sure my daughter is well fed and has everything she needs and I play with her all day till shes tired and ready to take a nap. My mom tries to take her from me every chance she gets and everytime I say no she will tell me I am depriving her from being a normal girl or Im creating an autistic child which makes no sense because autism is genetic and my daughter speaks and is a very verbal and playful kid.
I hate how rude my mom is to me, she degrades me with the neighbors are over at the house saying Im not a good mom and she degrades me by telling her friend whos a social worker that she thinks IM not a good mother. Even my sister is convinced that my mom is right because everytime I try to take my daughter to bed at 8pm my mom says its too early and she says I want to lock her in a room which is a lie because I stay in the room with my daughter when its her bedtime and I play her cartoons for her till she falls asleep. Today I decided to bring her to bed at 7pm because she was very cranky and my mom yells at me that its too early and my daughter doesnt need this or that.
I yell at my mom that I am my daughters mother and she has no right to degrade me and treat me the way she does. Im sick of her and the way she treats me, I hate my mom and I hope I can get her out of my life as soon as I can. She such a hateful, judging, and religious manipulative person.
Im so stressed and I feel like breaking something or slapping my mom in the face because I hate her so much. I wish I could make her hurt as much as she hurt me.
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That is your choice Sarah! :D
I will still be here regardless.
Samareh.
All i can say is wow you come across as really ungreatfull Sarah!
there are many wise people on this website giving you some great advice and their opinions. Especially Nancy :
I wish you the best of luck on your healing~ and you know i am here if you need to talk, but i will not engage you in this thread where you can " show off" your pain, like its something to be proud of.
Lots of love.
Samareh.
Your threat is meaningless, and your recent attitude and language is grounds to have you removed from the site.
love you Sarah love Bob
Who the hell is your mother? The way you described her, she is so arrogant and decays everyone abilities, I would bring her justice and fair punishment as I see fit.
Also, please don't treat others mean, they are trying to help whether their understanding of your situation is assumed false and un-helpful.
Thats right Nancy! I have had my share of abuse from my parents but to see me now, you would not believe it! As bad as it was for me, one thing I did learn from it was how NOT to raise my children. I remember sometimes the abuse would be so bad for my sisters, I would jump in and take their "beating" for them while I was still hurting from the one I had just recieved! They thought I was crazy for doing that and at times, so did I. At that young of an age, can someone tell me why I felt like I was helping the "abuser" by offering myself up for more punishment and sparing my sisters at the same time? Verbal insults were also included in this abuse and to add insult to my injury, the abuser would sometimes call one of their friends on the phone who also believed in that type of abuse, so they could listen in to our pain and helpless screams for mercy. To this very day, I can hardly stand still when I see a child being purposely harmed. Beatings DO NOT WORK, because if they did, they would only have to be administered ONCE! Point Blank! Here is something I heard that helped me get through that terrible phase of my life; Hurt people, hurt people. Abused people, abuse people. Troubled people, trouble people. Also, Loved people, love people. Respected people, respect people. Caring people care for people. Hope this helps someone cause Lord knows it sure helped me.
I think you should look at the medication you are taking and I wonder if it is not right for you?
Love Bob
I agree with Feather Winger and Maria. Tell those arrogant people arround you to accept you as you are or to watch you as you go.
Thank you Nancy, I'm over it now and no longer dwell on the past relating to my father. REMEMBER, to reconstruct you have to deconstruct first!
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