I've been wondering a few things.
With all the changes going on and the ascension going on ... I have been in a relationship for 2 years with my boyfriend.. I am 23 he is 31...
When i met him i saw 11:11 everywhere following me around and i thought it was "meant to be" i saw we could have an amazing future, he was amazingly polite, sweet and charming... untill i got to "really" know him after he moved in my house with my mom... we have been through a very very hard situations because he has anger issues .. he asked me many times to forgive him and i did..he is going to a psychiatrist now to help him deal with it...he is not much of a spiritual person at all... I can say... it is still a strange relationship. He promised me that he is going to work and make things work between us but its mostly sweet words and no actions. I am a light worker and i think he is holding me back from growing or probably not?
I recently found out that he told his dad on an open email that he doesnt want to be with me and that he didnt want to be for a long time and allot of other things that to me there are Lies, they are not true at alll. i felt so sad about this because he seems very happy to me and we had many plans...i didnt understand why he didn't tell me? after i calmly asked him if there is something i should know or if there is something bothering him...he got verbally abusive and very defensive and just went to sleep. The next day he was on this anger again..i left him alone the whole day but i am in great confusion.
I just need a different more deep perspective and support on my issue here. I've tried to help him spiritually, energetically, emotionally, mentally and financially.... but its all up to him if he wants to change or not but now he is getting very abusive and disrespectful and its very confusing for me whats the mission i have with him? Whats the plan?? I don't know what our contract is?? What do u guys think?
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I believe that life is to short for dysfunctional relationships.....When people are in abusive relationships it does something to the mind, women get used to being beaten down.......it destructs the self esteem
I do believe people come into our lives for a reason and we grow and change and become healthier, and sometimes certain relationships spur us to change in ways we never thought possible.....
there are seven billion people on this planet and sometimes
you have to cut ties with people because it is self preservation
thank you tentinyturtles
I am fresh out of a relationship just like this. We grew up going to the same schools since we were little, our brothers on the same baseball team at the time, had crushes on each other in high school, and fate had us meet up by chance at a friend's several years later. The beginning of the relationship we were very smitten, he was so sweet, polite and we were sure we were going to be married and have a future together. People would come up to us and just say what a wonderful couple we made. We made each other beam and laugh.
Gradually I saw he had anger problems. I would excuse them..it made me very confused bc it was very different from the person I had first fallen in love with. He would gradually get worse. I would say or ask something and he would be defensive and angry and I didnt understand why. It was like stepping on eggshells at times and scared he would blow up and get mad at me and I would feel regret and blame myself. I realized I couldnt fully be myself bc of this now. He'd cross boundaries by disrespecting me and acting violent and I'd leave. He would say hes sorry and wont do it again and I would believe him. Soon after, actions would still speak louder than words.
We found we were having a baby last yr. He got worse during my pregnancy and I often felt alone,he was having a "mid life crisis" and realized hes no longer going to be out with his friends as much as he wanted anymore in the future and just went out and left me home. He said this would change after the baby got here but after a year, hasn't stepped to the plate much as a dad and his anger got worse. I had him change his diaper one night and our son cries and squirms. He got so frustrated he threw our sons legs down aggressively and my protective mother instincts came out and told him he better not handle my son that way and he got in my face and threatened me, took one of my favorite bags and tore it up. After time away to myself I thought long and hard, thinking about why I put up with this? I was holding on to that dream we had together in the beginning, thinking it was still possible and still there and that person I met was still there, in there somewhere.
Anyone who treats you as a doormat to release his anger or frustration has a selfish heart. I was being distracted trying to make sense of his confusing antics and being emotionally drained and lost sight of my spiritual path and myself period. He is not at all spiritual and he was holding me back from my spiritual journey... our path did not feel "right" anymore and served its purpose to bring this soul into the world(I found in meditation that was our karmic tie to one another) and to learn about boundaries and what real love does and what it doesn't do. Women like you and I have big hearts and it is bc we are caring we put up with more than we should. We are a million dollars being confused as pennies with men like this and it is bc we stay they feel they can do it more. They have internal issues to address and get help with but it is not our job to fill. My best advice is to let him go. Whatever your lesson and purpose for the relationship, try to think hard or meditate about but pls realize it is a passing learning experience. If you have any questions pls feel free to msg me on here. Your story sounds all too familiar and I feel for everything you are going through sister. All the best love, xoxoxo
> what you want, not what you don't want. This sequence is a sign that
> there is a gate of opportunity opening up, and your thoughts are
> manifesting into form at record speeds. The 111 is like the bright
> light of a flashbulb.
> It means that the universe has just taken a snapshot of your thoughts
> and is manifesting them into form. Are you pleased with what thoughts
> the universe has captured? If not, correct your thoughts (ask your
> angels to help you with this if you have difficult controlling or
> monitoring your thoughts).
Hi Ali,
good topic. Relationhips help us to see ourselves, in this time line we are still breaking or trying to break up patterns left over from past life relationships. The partner is a mirror, without a partner we are often not able to see things that need to change and or be let go of within ourselves.
I can Understand your confusion, but only because I have been there done that ALOT. But your confusion is not that you are confused it is that you are trying to see what this man is saying and the actions do not match. that can be/feel very confusing. But what needs to be known is that you are not here to be abused nor used.
This mirror is saying I am abusive and you are taking it because you believe you are helping me, what hes saying is I'll say or do anything that will keep you hooked.
Your not confused, your trying to see something that is not there.
Also it doesn't matter what another person says or does, but that you have clear boundries, boundries such as I am a child of God, I am a lightworker, I do not deserve to be abused no matter what, this does not feel good, and makes no sense.And....as a lightworker, when I help people it feels good, the end result is good!!!!!
This, the anger, abusiveness, is this guys problem "not yours". We are not here to fix or put up with anyones crap.
The problem here is not him, its you and what you will tolerate from another being.
This is about boundries, and self love. And....knowing that real love does not hurt!
We are experiencing many Karmic relationships at the moment so that we can see where we need to change our own perspective.
It is hard when you are a gentle caring person, who does not have a balanced center core, which the relationship is trying to show you.
This is just one more step to your own empowerment, and you may be tested again to see if you have learned this lesson.
Love & BlessingsValerie
Ali
Please do not allow yourself to be treated so disrespectfully and with no consideration, learn your lesson quickly and move on I feel.
This guy is clearly making a convenience of you and your good nature, send him on his way, we are not responsible for anyone else.
Protect yourself, spiritual growth is halted when we have attachments that are not from Love.
Kind thoughts
Light and Love
Steve
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