Hi folks. John Jancar here, again. And I need your help...again lol I need your input. These past days, I've been having a real inner reflection, almost an inner crisis...about balancing seriousness with light heartedness.
Usually, I'm very easy going, very light and relaxed, I usually don't take things so seriously. I like to laugh, I like to make jokes, I like to have fun and enjoy myself. I think that's part of being a light being, obviously. And I think that is a cause of a lot of strife, here on ACC and in the world...where people just take things way too seriously, they take nasty things people say to them way too seriously. I think they would be better served to just take it lightly, let it slide, brush it off, not take it so personally and so seriously. I think that would solve a lot of the fighting and bickering here, as well, which we all know there's been alot of lately.
But lately, I've been feeling very serious. Very intense, very heavy. Which I don't really like. I used to be that way a lot, when I was a teenager, I was very serious. Life had made me serious, and mature. People used to say I was like an adult, I was so mature, so serious, so deep. And that's how I was when I first came onto this site, I was in a tough time, and I was in a state where I was very serious, and very mature. And I really don't like being that way.
But I know there's a place for it. Being serious is part of being an adult. Being serious makes you deep, it makes you mature. And I've found being serious ultimately means being truly real, because when you say something, obviously to be truly real, you have to say what you seriously feel, what you seriously mean. And I've found being serious touches a depth of your inner being, that being light and laid back just doesn't reach.
But I know there is also a place for being light, and fun loving, and easy going. It's part of being a child, and I believe definitely in the idea of being like a child, having a child like spirit. I've been that way a lot lately. It's part of being a light being, part of being happy and joyous and innocent. And I've found that people tend to like you more, and I receive a lot of love, for being that way. I think it touches a that light filled place in peoples hearts. But I know too, that people also respect you more if you are serious, and mature, and deep.
I'm just having a problem now balancing the two, because again, like always, I want to balance the both polarities perfectly. I want to be able to be serious, and deep, and mature, and adult like...to the extreme...and also be light and fun loving and joking and care free, and child like...to the extreme. I want to incorporate the extremes both sides, into one feeling, one state of being. Again, not easy!
You can't be a singer, or a musician, or an artist...if you are too serious. I know that. Because when you try to sing or make music or draw or something when you are so serious, it doesn't feel right, it feels awkward. It takes a certain light heartedness to do that. I also know, that you can't have real responsibility, real influence, real power...unless you take it seriously, and aren't so care free about it, you have to be mature about it, you have to take it seriously. And I want to be both! I want to be an musician, and a politician. I want to be in the intellectual world, and the world of artistry. I want to be a kid, and an adult, all at the same time.
So, help me guys. I need your input, I need your advice. Let me know your thoughts and feelings about this. And your own experience about balancing your own inner adult, and inner child. Your own seriousness with your own light heartedness. I always enjoy reading what you guys have to say, and I always come out with a slightly better realization of what I'm trying to realize, when I read what you guys have to say. So thank you..and I'm looking forward to reading!
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I have been reading your post all evening, and would like to say that I am really impressed with your high level of intelligence and the wisdom of your posts. You clearly a very old soul despite your tender years. I was very surprised to see how young you are. I think you have a wisdom far beyond your Earth years, and you really should lighten up and enjoy life in the present. Let your Inner Child out have some fun with him.
For my own part I vaselate between extreme seriousness and extreme humor. It's all good. There's a time for everything.
Namaste
People have told me that since I was little, "wise beyond his years!" and I was always very overly mature growing up. My friends used to tell me, John you're like an adult! It's only when I really became an adult, that I started to find my innocence and child like spirit. Now I'm very child like, and only go into adult mode when I have to...and when I do, I can be more intelligent wise and mature than almost anybody.
I thank you for taking the time to write me your sweet comments, it's very nice of you, thank you! I think you're very intelligent and wise too, I haven't really seen you around here until recently, but I will make it a point to keep up with what you say, because it's very good stuff. Like you I tend to gravitate between being too serious and too light hearted, we need to find the balance lol Better to light than too serious, though!
Thank you, and may God bless you with love, joy, and inspiration! You have my love and respect!
Thank you. I would be honored to have you as my friend. I will even adopt you if like.
And you have my love and respect.
Namaste
Hey Tally, I find it odd that many here have a hardtime talking about there up's and downs in life, and feel a need to talk about these things anymore after they become what is called Awakened. It is nice to hear that there are those experiencing things yet in the real world, because it helps us balance, and stay grounded at the sametime. I'm glad to hear that these things are helping you become more of the Light with the present. Emotions are an important part of our Spiritual Growth, and without them it we wouldn't be getting past a part of our life, that we wish to let go of. Thanks for sharing again
Bless the Nite,
April
Well I'm sorry to hear that, Tally. I can relate, I've been through that stuff time and again. But it's great for allowing you to look within yourself, and face that shadow, and find your peace, find your strength and not let anything throw you off your positivity. It's not easy. But ultimately it's why we experience these type of things, so we can learn to develop our own inner mastery.
It didn't have to be so hard, but we as a collective I think were meant to have it very hard, it will add to our greatness, once we find our selves again and grow into the love, and the light. Where we were in the very depths of the pit. We had it tougher than maybe any race out there, and look where we ended up. I think we are destined to be one of the most loving, and enlightened races there is, when it's all said and done. I think our story, the human story, will be one of the greatest ever told! Because we had it so hard, we been so dark, and we will become so light. I think that is the treasure that awaits us, and is our destiny that God has planned for us! We just have to beat the dragon, and beat it we will!
Thank you Semile. I agree with you on everything. And I feel that what you say is very true, we need to get rid of the ego in order to find our true self, or our soul..and let our soul guide us, instead of the ego. I think the ego has had its role to play in our history, I even think that we need to have an ego in order to operate in a world of ego. I think it's necessary. But ultimately, we have to outgrow it, and we have to learn how to let our spirit guide us, so we can live in a spiritual world, not an egotistical world.
And I'm with you, we definitely are spiritual beings, having an ego experience lol If only people could realize that. I see so many people, so caught in their ego...I mean, they aren't real people! It's like they have some demon in them, it's like they are controlled by some dark force....and they don't speak from the heart, they don't speak their real thoughts and feelings, and I mean..they just aren't real. If only people could understand that the REAL them isn't their ego personality, but their inner spirit within. The part of them that is love, and light...and goodness. If only...well it's happening, slowly...but surely....I hope lol
Anyways, thank you for commenting, Semile...you say many great things, and I honor you!
Hey I love Disney movies lol They are so sweet and innocent. Anyways lol I appreciate your words, Ladytam, they touch me. I can tell you though when it comes to singing and dancing....thinking about it, ruins everything lol It does. And I can tell you that from my own experiences as a singer and dancer. My best performances always came when I was just going with it, I wasn't thinking, I was just doing. I let the rhythm take over, and I didn't try to push it or make it happen. Nothing ruins your rhythm like TRYING to be rhythmic lol Rhythm is something you just have to let happen. I mean, that's how it is, I know it is.
And it's the same for basketball, my best games always came when I really didn't care. I went out, with confidence, and just played the game, and let the game come to me, instead of trying to make things happen. And there were games when I took things too seriously, and was too intense, and I tried to make things happen, I tried to force things...and I ended up playing badly. I think for mastery in anything, we have to be lighter, rather than serious.
But I do agree we have to take things seriously, when it's time to be serious. Some issues are real heavy, like your what's going on with your man and your kids...and we need to take it seriously, and not just kind of poo poo it. But like you said...there is a time to be serious...but it's not very long lol
And me and you have had similar experiences, in the sense that...we were both kind of robbed of our childhood, and the joy was taken out of it. So we now find ourselves finding our joy and our innocence again, in our adult life. I mean, I still sleep with a teddy bear! lol And I love to watch cartoons, and Disney movies, like you do. That's one of the reasons I love Michael Jackson so much, because that's how he was.
And I totally agree with you basically everything. It's time to heal our inner child, to come to peace, to find our innocence, to let ourselves enjoy life again, and be in awe, be curious, view life as grand...just like we did as kids. And I've been doing a pretty good job of that. And I'd much rather be that way, than to be all serious. Even though there is a time for it.
I thank you for commenting, LadyTam, you always are such a wonderful lady and I appreciate your presence in my life! Thank you!
Passionate aren't you? You know exactly what to do...just stay present and feel what feels right. I love you John Jancar!
And I love you back, Cassandra! lol Thank you for commenting!
Hey Tally, Depression is hard to go through, I know many who have went through it, and you know i think that most of us in the 3D have went through something like that, at one point or another. We might not all get medicated for having Depression, but I know we all go through things we have to face in life.
Yeah facing our Shadow Self is never easy, it is hard to do.
I feel for you, for having to go through depression like that, and hope things got better for you. Thanks for sharing that
Bless the Nite,
April
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