I will tell you all my closest and dear friend of 12 years
passed away last night and I found out this morning.
His name was Mike Lamongtange and he was 33 years
old.He was a big guy and always high spirited and no
matter what caos was going on in his life he always had
a great attitude. He was always there for me and anyone
else if he could.We were so close we called each other
brothers.He also left behind 3 beautiful children that he
loved with all his heart. He was a free spirit.One of the few I met in my lifetime that equal respect for each other, was there on all levels.He had no religion,the man was not spiritual,and he did not have many beliefs. But what mike did have was inner knowledge. I seen it firsthand in how he went along in his day to day life, and the way he was as a person. Mike will be dearly missed by many people. And this world is without a great man. It is just wild to know that my dearest friend and brother is no longer on this earth,and I know he is on another journey now. I respect that and honor him. I also know that dwelling and being sad about what happened to him, he would not want that from me. I also honor him for what he gave me. That was a brother for 12 years that did so much for me and in a lot of ways I would not be where I am today if it was'nt for him. I have all the answers in my head and searched deep in my heart on what I need to do to get through this. I'm working through it ,I am just kind of in slow mode about the whole thing at this point in time. Losing anyone you care for is real tuff, a relative, companion, friend, ect.
I will tell you that the reason I posted it here on this site is because I have no other site. I do not belong to facebook, do not twitter, I have a great life and it takes up a lot of my time . And this site speaks for itself on the reason why this is the only site I belong to on the internet.
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Thank you, to all you my kindred spirits for your replys.
His 3 children have a uncle and grandfather there that will make sure there taking care of.I realize it will take time and your right he's still there for all of us that cared for him, just in a different way now. And I'll continue my journey here, and one day (hopefully in the far future) me and my brother will meet up again. Our existence here is just a blink of a eye, cherish it, love and embrace it, and live it to your fullest.
My condolences.
Depending on the timing and relationship of your friend with his children (and your relationship with them), do some activity or something with his children that he would have loved doing with them that he may not have been able to do. Then explain to the children (when appropriate) at a later time regarding why you did this and how much you loved your friend. It may help you, and it may help out with his children.
I remember hearing good sermons at funerals of my relatives, but appropriate celebrations of their memory via activities with close relatives may be a better way to remember them than hearing about what kind of person they were from a stranger.
sorry to hear about your loss
grieve
and honor your friend
can you do a ritual of some sort
can you support his wife (if he had one) and his three kids??
just read your post,,, sorry for your loss, X