Just had a story from today that I wanted to share with everyone.
For the past 4 years I’ve been working in a division where I’ve always had a very strained relationship with another coworker. For the first 1.5 years we worked in the same office(5 ft from each other), and no matter my actions she was always very angry, abrasive, judgmental, you name it, day-in day-out with me.(It was apparent she was going through battles of her own) I pulled the ole, “Kill em with kindess’ routine, but even I was running low on mental/emotional energy throughout the process, but I refused to let in. Being in a professional work environment, I had no choice but to make our relationship work.
Now after 1.5 years, she switched positions in the company and I was very relieved. However shortly later I was promoted and placed in the same department and vicinity as her. I immediately thought this was meant to happen, for in this Universe there are no coincidences. :)
Now close to a year has gone by and she hasn’t changed a bit. I refused to let up and based on advice from a friend, I took every opportunity to see the best in this person and try to show her who she truly is. The big breakthrough was all of a sudden, she broke down and apologized for all the torment she has always given me(a person who never apologized to anyone in her life), conceded that she has a few issues of her own, and gave me a complement.
I felt very good that I’ve never given up on this person nor held a grudge against her. For people can change, and one most always see the beauty in that person, for some day they will realize and awake to their true selves.
Love and Courage to All
Goodspeed
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Your faith and patience, and strength in yourself paid off!
I don't think anyone can be forever negative towards persistent positivity?!
Thank you.
I needed your story today.
It will help me keep loving ...
Again,Thank you!
Bear
I had this problem for years and moved on alot. then one day I got a good job and sure enough there was a very strong willed woman working there who did not like me no matter what. I was polite and helpful to her but not she to me. So I stayed away from her when I could and did not try to win her over. Sure enough one day she professed her loyality to the company and seemed to be the hero. A week later she came in a asked for a leave due to her husband getting hurt. A week later she quit with out notice. Word was he was not really sick but she did not want to work so much. I came from behind in spirit and did more sales that month then ever in the company.
I don't try to please anyone but try to keep the peace and allow others to be them and most of all allow me to be me. I like me that way.
As long as my bung hole points to this sh*t hole they call earth, I will never do another thing for the low life sl**!
I do her shopping for her when I have to take my son out for the weekend, I rarely get my money back, I let her come and take my car to shop, and never so much as get a few dollars for my fuel she uses for her 60 kilometre trip, she can go and get well and truly F*****!
I've had it, never again!
I owe this bi*ch NOTHING. If you were to look around her house and ask where she got everything within it with the exception of her fridge and bed, she would tell you d*ck head here paid for it all. I have been forcing my son to maintain a relationship with her, insisting he go out every second weekend despite his refusal to go, but no more, if he doesn't want to go, I'm not forcing him, she can have the life she chose. She's a nasty, miserable &%$#!
Yes, be nice, but there's a breaking point, and after years of being treated like crap, I found mine.
I was released from hospital 2 days before my sons 16th birthday, and as I always make him a nice roast dinner for his birthday, and had purchased everything for it, since I still wasn't well after spending most the week in hospital, I asked his mum if she would like to prepare the meal for him, her response, "You can do it" She had no problem coming over to eat it, I even had to pick her up and drive her home. I asked if she would mind coming early to help as I wasn't feeling well, and she complained, so I did it all. She sat at my place and got waited on, then I drove her home and came back and cleaned up.
A person can only take so much crap from any one ar**hole, and I've taken more than enough, it's now ME time.
Love and peace <3
I have been through very similar situations many times... and had similar results when I stood my ground and didn't let negativity change the person I am. You are a strong person for not letting this energy get to you, the universe works in mysterious ways...
People do learn from your actions, even if you don't see the results right away - and you help make this world a better place, by being the person you are....
Glad to hear this, it really helps me to feel good about the person I am and need to continue to be....
~Love to You~ and keep up the good "work" :-)
but if she forget all about it, and comes back to her previous patterns..then no need to celebrate..yet...
..because many ppl get a glimpse of 'enlightenment' the one minute... and the next day they forget all out it, and go back to their old attitudes...
...in my view, a moment of compliment is nothing compared to all the load of crap u had to take from her, in all previous years...