Going Through It

Well my brothers and sisters I'm going through a bit of an issue and having trouble dealing with this.  I'm at a loss as to what to do or even if I should try anymore?  The problem concerns my best friend of 22 years!  Back when we first met we had long, deep spiritual talks from dusk to dawn, all night we'd talk and we amde plans for the future.

 

Now he is engaged, his world revolves around this woman, this is fine by me, I'm very happy for him.  However it seems she has turned him into a MATERIALIST and he is no longer into spirtuality.  He has also become a big "My Space" fan and I'm NOT into sites like that, the people are rude and materialistic and just not my cup of tea!! 

 

This is my beft frend, he's like family too me, but recently I had a bit of a personal issue and he made ALL these big promises and he let me down!!  This is out of character and not in his nature to do this.

 

I'm at a loss as this is my dear friend, my best friend, but he keeps talking my fiance...my fiance....my fiance and it's starting to bother me.  His facination with this woman is a little strange?  he has forgotten himelf?  he has given up on his own spirituality and the plans we had made and I'm at a cross roads as to what I should or shouldn't do next?

 

The whole scenario has made me sad, angry, resentful and just blue.

 

 

 

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  • Yeah been on both sides of this one for sure. I think you know what's up, all I would say is don't burn bridges. Sometimes people change, sometimes they change again. Love what agnes said there, someday we'll all meet again, I'm sure of that.
  • NYC? That is a typo!?....rollingover, falling out of chair, lol.....NO I moved to San Diego. I'm staying with a friend on her boat. It's rather exciting a sliving on a boat is quite different from living on land. But it's been quite and adventure already!!

    Yes you are correct, I alway land on my feet....lol, at least I stopped landing on my head!? You are corret, sometimes the landing is hard and not the desried "soft" landing, but never the less it all works out in the wash.

    Thank you for your kind words and input, I enjoy sharing with people here on this site.^_^
  • Good Morning, Thanx guys for your love, kind words and input into helping me understand and deal with this issue. I think "we" ourselves know exactly what we need to do, BUT sometimes we are unsure if we're making the RIGHT choice? Change can be scary especially when dealing with the unfamillair, i.e. being in a new town, new friends, new situations, etc? When you're facing it alone it can be a tough transition. It's like I know what the outcome is going to be but sometimes the "journey" is what I'm afraid of? I just have to have a long, hard, belly laugh because THAT's just NOT my nature, I'm a sagitarius and we saggies usually dive in head first. I guess I was afraid to go forward without my friend because he has been a big part of my life and we've done so much together. Hearing advice from othe rlike minded people who are on the same journey makes the transition easier and less scary. Thanx guys^_^
    • Both Katt and Sashia,

      It's all right to grief over friendship gone out of sync...perhaps someday...one day...we'll all be together again experiencing 'Heaven on Mother Earth'...if not...it's all right too...we've far more 'adventures' to look forward to......and it will all be beautiful and happy. Reach for stars!!
  • We've to go more into reality here and now.

    It's very clear that your best friend has another 'top priority' in his life and he has chosen to be with his fiancee and her 'ideals' - based on ego. It is sad to see a best friend turning away from his soul purpose and whatever promises he had made with you...it could have been that he thought it was 'enough' for him....but apparently not. He has a new partner in his life and it's only 'fair' (to yourself) that you'd let him go.

    He might have to face his 'ego' journey on his own...hopefully to finally understand that..... that's not his 'true' self. You don't know that...he doesn't understand who he is...we're all just looking on ....as an observer...unless you want to be more than a 'best friend' with him. Other than that ...honor him as who he wants to be (egoistic or not) ..for now....just let it go...respect his wishes...and let him journey with unconditional love. One day....he will realize what he truly need/want and hopefully to find that you're still there...waiting for him to come back ect....like all stories from before...

    All these are based on ego. Let yourself be free to go ...where you need to go...for now. Experience others and open doors which will allow you to grow spiritually too. Don't imprison yourself based on friendship and ego but only based on finding the truth of who you truly are.

    For now....concentrate on yourself and start manifesting what you want...beyond 2012.

    There will be others wo are more magnificent and more beautiful than you can imagine.
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