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The last time we spoke we discussed empathy and compassion in regards to communication. We will be continuing this theme of discussion today.
It is common in many cultures throughout your vast Earthly realm that when something goes unexpectedly wrong, someone must be accountable and held responsible.

This is an incredible misrepresentation of the thought of what responsibility is. Dear ones please make a point to truly understand - true and real responsibility has little to do with who or what is the blame or fault but how to react in a responsible manner. But it is evident from what we see that many dear souls are confused and cannot distinctly comprehend blame or fault.

What we are able to see is your reaction of frustration when something goes wrong, all the new ways of being and living can suddenly go out the window because you find yourself within an uncontrollable urge to point fingers regarding the fault and who is to blame of the situation or circumstance.

We see the reason why there is this fallback to point fingers and to blame and that is basically for relief from the frustration that the experience caused. When you allow yourself to vent your strong feelings, you think the vent will bring you peace of mind and you will feel better. We see this as a temporary relief - venting provides no lasting relief or a peaceful mind.

From our observations we see this too often. Blaming anyone no matter how big or small their contribution was to the current dilemma becomes easier for some dear souls than accepting the responsibility for any actions created they may have created that helped cause the situation to not work out as planned.

There does come a time dear ones when blaming others can no longer be your scapegoat, take the courageous step and take responsibility for your actions, allow your mind, body, heart and spirit to be liberated by your honesty and truthfulness.

Try to look at a situation dear ones from a distance, see it unravel through the process that brings you to the point where you suddenly feel the necessity to blame. You feel yourself becoming possibly frustrated, maybe even a little embarrassed…the ego gets a hold of these strong feelings and puts up a defense and that little protective voice of the Ego tries to encourage you to pass the fault onto another.

This is when you look even closer and discover where the true fault lies and more often-than-not it is a shared responsibility. When working together on a task or project, all people involved have a responsibility to bring that project into successful completion. Not one person is at fault when something goes wrong.

Working together, effectively communicating will help remove any disharmony that blaming can create and instill a deeper sense of calm and satisfaction. During each stage you are in on your journey, wherever you are on this enlightening path, you are in charge of your choices.

You are the one to choose to be happy even if you wake up sore and tired. Realize dear ones, every time blame is thrown into a relationship of any kind this negative behaviour causes separateness and can easily create fear, anger and pain.
There are many dear souls that share your beautiful Earth that often complain about this or that, some more than others - realize that complaining is related to blame, the only difference is that complaining is a less focuses form.

Yes it is well understood that you wish to liberate yourself from some of the many powerful and often destructive emotions that are often expressed during moments of frustration. The most effective and efficient way to deal with your upset is to learn to be more compassionate when you communicate.

Make a point to clearly observe the situation before you evaluate or comment. No matter what it is you are feeling that is a result of the situation, experience these feelings through acknowledgement - they are yours. Look at the situation in a non-biased way and see the value that still exists, look closely to what it is that makes you feel your needs are not being met and what is it that is drives you, what you are passionate about that may have become shattered as a result of the situation going in a unexpected direction.

Make a conscious effort to understand your feelings before you express them.
You will be faced with other difficult circumstances and each one you successful move from helps prepare you for the next one. You gain great insight and solutions that will come back to serve you more than once providing you may have to change your solution a bit to fit the purpose.

Exercising control in a mindful manner that doesn’t include blame will become a natural part of your life. Be always conscious of your words, actions, thoughts and feelings - the energy you radiate is felt by many, sometimes more than you realize.

Another area that can use compassionate communication is when you speak directly and bluntly to someone. You feel compelled to tell someone what is one your mind and the words often used are full of very strong feelings that have the power to crush’s confidence. Learning to choose assertive words that are non-hurtful, non-condemning or show fault can become an important step in your growth.

It is important to be truthful and honest yet it is crucial to mindful of your tone of voice and choice of words. Once your words are spoken, they cannot be erased no matter how hard the dear one receiving your words may try. Growth doesn’t happen when harsh and debilitating words are used, growth then is thwarted and any development comes to a sudden halt.

We encourage each of you to take responsibility for yourself, at every stage of your journey. This also means when there is a disturbance in your peace of mind, figure out where and when this disruption began, instead of overlooking the obvious and passing blame. Sometimes talking to the ones who you feel is to blame but in a way you are asking to help solve the error of the situation is a great way to include compassion in your communication that will help bring relief and balance back into your mindset.

When there is a time dear ones for you to share your honest and truthful opinion we support you to honestly own your own interpretation, what it is you think is being projected, and what your personal judgement is as well as your feelings that do not include the other person or persons involved - you are simply and effectively sharing. You are not targeting any one person, you are speaking objectively yet adding a bit of yourself as well, “This is what I think…., or “What I feel that has contributed to our project not working out is ….”.

These are some examples that can include you asking what they think. Because more than one person is involved they too will have their own conclusions and together, being mindful and respectful you can come up with a way to correct whatever the error may be. Compassionate communication is always possible; you only have to make the choice dear ones.

When you make a point to include the other people involved, you might be surprised and amazed with just how interested the other people are at helping. When you add compassion and respect into your challenges progress is much more swift and amiable. We know there are some areas that could be more problematic than others and each situation is filled with unique trials and tribulations.

Learning how to solve your challenges peacefully will require a certain amount of patience, but then again patience is required in every aspect of your life journey.
We will continue to encourage and support each of you to use every upset and disturbance that crosses your path as an opportunity for great growth and change.

All that you learned from all your yesterdays is helping you balance today. And what you gather today helps to create your tomorrows. When you share with another of an experience or how you are thinking in regards to a specific topic both of you are learning. Sometimes what we see when a person tells of an experience, during the telling they learn something more - a deeper Aha is learned and felt.

Sometimes it takes sharing verbally or even written with another in order to bring a fuller depth of understanding. The one that you choose to share with may only trigger this knowing by a word or phrase but suddenly you gain inspiration and the other person also learns from listening.

When you state what it is you want, make a point dear ones to state these in a positive manner. All that you don’t want is up to you to make different. If you don’t want a messy house then you already know what must be done. If you have been ill, or your physical body is aging and your strength is not like it used to be then we will guide you to ask for a little help. We know asking for help can be very difficult but you will surprised if you put a little faith into the asking, Hope very likely will share the moment that will bring you to the support and help you need to fulfill what it is you are wanting.

When you express what it is you want always be willing to hear a NO. Each of you are given Free Will to make choices. A normal part of your life is making requests of others, maybe you request one of your children to take the garbage out, it is not a demand, you are asking them.

You compassionately thank them for their help and they appreciate being greeted with a thank you. When you make requests of anyone it is important to respond compassionately. When someone refuses to meet a request what often results is a demand.

Often we see people who have become use to getting their way and can demand what was asked to be done. Anger often is a result and resentment a reaction on who you are stressing the demand. Sometimes demands work, but the one answering to your demand will not feel kindly or respectful towards you; they may react with their own use of words as a form of retaliation and distance themselves from you as a result.

No one likes to feel forced. Kindness is always a better way of accomplishing your wants and needs.
Any pain that is felt dear ones from any form of communication is due to having expectations, and sometimes these expectations can be quite high.

Be conscious of your expectations in your situations. Become aware when these expectations begin to cause pain and disharmony. At that point you are faced with more choices and one choice is changing the level of expectation. Learn as well to re-center yourself through grounding techniques that work best for you. They can be quick and very effective when applied in full faith and trust in the method you choose.

Remember dear ones, if you truly want to be happy make an effort to not judge another person’s desires, needs or even their own expectations if they reveal them to you; furthermore don’t be too quick to judge your own. Each of you brings value into all your endeavours. When you make a point to communicate more effectively you will help create a closer connection that brings a winning attitude for all involved.

We observe often that the happiest of people are the ones that are not overly fixated on one thing. They are open-minded and open-hearted. These happy people are flexible and discover pleasure from many sources and experiences and they rejoice in the ones they have not yet discovered.

Each of you are encouraged to be happy and accept one another’s desires and needs without being required to do anything more than accept. What is important is that your feelings, your wants and needs are well understood, and ultimately your feelings are secondary if you really think about it. Remain connected through compassionate communication that is derived from love and respect for each other.

Allow yourself to live and to love with an open heart, and through such freedom receive the benefits of compassionate empowerment and communication.

I AM Ascended Master, El Morya through Julie Miller

Source:http://spiritualconnectedness.wordpress.com/2013/01/11/the-energy-y...