Why is it so hard to forgive? As enlightened human beings we know we should forgive those who've wronged us and also forgive ourselves for wronging others. Not just for them but for ourselves as well.
By now in our enlightenment we know when we came to this earth school it was to learn lessons to help us move higher up in consciousness thereby bringing us closer to the Creator.
Intellectually we know before we came to this earth plane we set up the lesson plan and the teachers who would help us with our lessons and at the same time we'd help others with theirs. Our goal is to learn the lessons this time around so as to get off the wheel of Karma.
It sounds so simple but...
Emotionally there is a little voice in our head that seems to be on a playback loop that keeps repeating over and over again all the wrongs that have been done to us..."I cannot believe he said that to me...I'm so angry that she betrayed me with [?]...she always takes my things without asking and never returns them...why doesn't he love me anymore...what have I done to make her hate me...all I've ever done is love her." On and on it goes until you're gritting your teeth...your heart is beating too fast and you're having a hard time breathing. You stop!...and realize you've fallen for that little voice in your head 'again'...it's all just an illusion that feels all too real. You remind yourself you're in the earth school and apparently you're still having a problem with not feeling worthy or good enough and that you're a victim, but once this is realized will it stop that little voice in your head, will you remember next time to cut off the playback loop before it gets started...maybe, but how?
It's time to have a talk with yourself...
"Why do the same things keep happening to me but with different people? Is there something here I need to learn? I believe this is more about me than another person. I have to let go of the past because I cannot change it and I need to live in the now moment, not worrying about the future because it hasn't happened yet. I will bless, honor and forgive those whom I feel have wronged me because they've helped make me who I am today...they've made me realize I am valid, I am a good human being and I would never do to another what has been done to me...they're teaching me to have a conscience...they've helped make me a better person."
Hopefully this will help you understand that sometimes those who have caused us the most pain are our greatest teachers.
As humans we all err...that's how we learn, so just as we want to be forgiven we should also forgive, because after all, it's divine. ;)
Namaste,
Love, Light, and Peace...
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Thanks Beautiful Sky...<3 :*
I'm glad you liked my post Marique. It's so sad what happened to your son and the fact you found it in your heart to forgive the woman who killed him says what a fine person you are...I do not know if I could do that? I also agree it's hard to forgive ourselves and that's where guilt comes in too but if we can learn to forgive ourselves we can more easily forgive others.
One thing for sure, Nancy this life is hard and there is a lot to forgive. If we can learn to forgive there will be a lot less scarring..at least that's what I've found.
Wonderful post....Forgiving is so awesome....I have not so much trouble forgiving others as I do forgiving myself. I think self forgiveness is so important too, and for me that is the most difficult thing for me as well..but I am working on it...There have been a lot of things that have happened to me in my life that have been horrible and I struggled for a long time to forgive those that caused my pain....I had to try to learn to forgive the woman that murdered my son...that was so very very hard but I knew if I did not forgive that it would eat away my heart and humanity....She met her own fate not long after my Markie was killed. She fell in a river and drowned. I actually prayed for her family when they were grieving her because I knew the pain they were going through only too well. But forgiving myself for all the things and virtues that I feel I should be or have and lack is what I have trouble with forgiving.....but I am working on that. Forgiveness starts with self forgiveness or at least it should.
Thank you, sweet Semile...good seeing you.
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Thank you, Sylvain and so precious...divine indeed! My pic is not quit the same but close...;)
Oh, Feather that is absolutely beautiful and such a wonderful idea. I'm coming to realize many of us have issues with forgiving and dealing with those who've harmed us. We know we should forgive but it's so hard especially when those who've hurt us are still hurting us but the way you handle it is so wonderful and I hope everyone reads what you've written.
Love you, my wise and beautiful friend...
You're more than welcome, Windtalker and thank you for such kind words...I'm glad you liked it.